Gelato online dating
Gelato online dating
I had made it through college with few men ever expressing interest and the timing never seemed to be so that we could make anything of it. But, I’ve spent the last three years or so with some sort of online dating profile, from Christian Mingle to E-Harmony to Coffee Meets Bagel (which was fun).None of the men in church seemed interested, and the older you get, the more the pool dwindles. I felt like God was incapable of accomplishing His purposes, so I was going to assist and do it for Him. There are pros and cons to each, and while I could sit here and hash out which one I prefer, that doesn’t matter.
Yes, I have enrolled (is it even considered ‘enrolling’? Several times, actually, with a few different sites. I also know many couples who have met in school, at work, at church, through mutual friends, through family, and on a beach during a volleyball tournament (ok, I only know one couple who met on a beach during a volleyball tournament- and they got married 7 days later…).There is no ‘one way’ to do this and there’s wisdom in not putting your eggs all in one basket, so to speak.If you choose to explore online dating, don’t expect it to be way you meet your future spouse. From setting up a profile, to scrolling through pages of matches, online dating can be rather time-consuming and stressful.For every couple that meets online, there are several more frustrated singles who shut down their profiles with no such luck. It’s equally as difficult (ok, maybe it was for me) to know you are showing up as a match for others and they are ignoring you.Plus, there are old, abandoned profiles that are becoming increasingly difficult to filter out. Our freedom to do something can quickly morph it into an idol.
That is a balance we have to maintain in all areas of our liberties. Brace yourself for the cheesy commercials with the catchy jingles. Most importantly, I do not feel there is a Biblical yay or nay in regards to online dating. There is a balance between obsessing over it and shunning it like it’s the devil.In most Christian circles, we combat that by just labeling it as ‘bad’ so people will stay away from it.This leads to judgment, legalism and a whole lot of rules with Scriptural scoliosis.We get some Scripture, twist it all around and make things straight up sinful.If you date online, you are no longer trusting in God. It’s right there in the first epistle to the e-harmonites.