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Honaman, who wrote “The High Road Has Less Traffic: honest advice on the path through love and divorce.” She will be contributing her insights here regularly — and starts today with interesting observations about what baggage (risks! The rest of us never have to worry about dating someone who carried their PB&J’s and Hostess Twinkies to school each day in a metal box bearing our likeness.
But, that doesn’t mean the rest of us don’t have other risks associated with dating!
As I was flying back from Miami a few weeks ago, I got into a conversation with the woman sitting next to me.
As the conversation progressed, I mentioned that I had been divorced, and was now remarried. She immediately opened up and started talking a mile a minute. And yet, she was still angry at her ex-husband and still full of negativity.
Like me, she was also divorced (and had been for nearly 5 years). When she spoke about him, you could feel the hatred radiate from her.
She was in her mid-40’s, and she was incredibly frustrated with the dating scene and never finding “Mr. Did I call her out and suggest that perhaps she wasn’t asked out again because it wasn’t fun to be surrounded by all that negativity on a first date (or a second or third)? I asked her how long ago it had been since her divorce. If I was feeling this much negativity in just our short conversation on our flight, I wondered how much her dates were picking up from her when they went out.
Shaun Cassidy risked dating women who had his photo on their lunchbox.
My flight-mate risked turning off the very men she wanted to get to know better by focusing too much on negativity in relationships from her past. I think she intellectually understood this paradox when we spoke, and she agreed to try to work on it. Honaman wrote “The High Road Has Less Traffic: honest advice on the path through love and divorce” in response to a need for a book that provided honest, real, and raw advice about how to survive and thrive through one of life’s toughest journeys. Millions of people are "e-dating" in the hopes of finding that perfect someone.Right.” As she and I began to talk, I got an earful of not only how bad so many of her previous dates had been, but also how horrible her ex-husband was. It seemed nobody could do anything right, and yet she seemed genuinely surprised when she told me that she wasn’t frequently asked to go out on a second date or third date. Or, was this an instance where I should keep my mouth shut? I was never going to see her again, and perhaps it was destiny that we had come to sit next to each other on this flight. She reminded me that it had been nearly five years. I asked her what she found most attractive in a man, and she provided me with a litany of great traits – funny, kind, good to his mom, had to make her laugh, healthy (she said good looking was a bonus! Never once did she say negative, sarcastic, or pessimistic. “Why would I want to date someone who was negative? I carefully suggested that perhaps it was time to lose her own anger and the negativity over her ex-husband, and time to make a commitment that he would not be mentioned on future dates, no matter how interested or willing the other person was to discuss what had happened.It really can’t be any fun to date someone who is continuing to bash her ex.It also would make me wonder if there is still too much emotion tied up there, leaving her less emotionally available for someone else.